Everyone Else Is Faking It Too

Your fashion career won’t look like anyone else’s — and that’s the point

Some days in fashion feel like freefall.

You're watching others on set every week, styling talent, getting reposted by brands — and you're stuck questioning if you missed the memo.
Wondering if you're behind.
Quietly panicking that you're the only one without a clear plan.

But here’s something I’ve seen again and again — through running Stylist Elixir, mentoring creatives, and speaking with stylists at every level of the industry:

It’s not just you.

Most people — even the ones who look like they’ve figured it out — are still navigating uncertainty behind the scenes.
Not because they’re failing.
But because fashion careers aren’t one-size-fits-all.

There isn’t one right way to build a creative life in this industry.
And feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re off-track.
It just means it’s time to reconnect to your path.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re behind, let me offer this:

Some people assist for years before stepping out solo.
Some land big jobs early, then disappear quietly.
Some skip the traditional route altogether.
Some burn out. Some pivot. Some rebuild.

There’s no single route. Just different rhythms.

But no one talks about that part.
So when you’re in the middle of a slow season — or stuck in a spiral of overthinking — it can feel like you're the only one not moving forward.

You scroll. You compare. You question everything.

Should I be further ahead?
Am I doing this wrong?
Will I ever get there?

But “there” doesn’t exist. There’s only here — and where you choose to move next.

And once you realise your career isn’t supposed to look like anyone else’s,
you start making different decisions.
Better ones. Clearer ones.
Ones that are aligned with you.

That’s where the real shift begins.

For paid subscribers, I’ve written a deeper guide with 10 clear, grounded ways to move through that stuck, comparison-heavy season and rebuild your direction with clarity.

If you’re ready to stop spiralling and start shaping what’s next —
→ unlock the full post here.